‘Pulling Out’ or the ‘Withdrawal Method’ is when the man withdraws his penis right before he is about to ejaculate in order to prevent pregnancy. It’s been around long before it had a name but it was just as unreliable and unsafe then, as it is now.
Talking about sex is something that almost every Indian avoids. It makes us deeply uncomfortable because talking about an intimate and private act can be awkward. However, with the rise in STDs, unwanted pregnancies and dating culture, it has become important for us to talk about it openly. In an age where there is a smog around consent, it is important that we don’t shy away from these discussions. So, what are the things about sex that make us super-awkward?
Then you grow up too afraid to even look at the opposite sex, let alone touch them – fuelled with misinformation, you end up making some pretty dreadful sexual decisions. All these untruths make it hard to know what points are purely ludicrous and which ones are actually hard-facts.
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Pleasure- It’s something that we all seek and yet, we are bogged down by the shame surrounding the pursuit of it. When it comes to sexual pleasure, especially masturbation, shame increases manifold because of the cultural norms and perceptions. However, thanks to the major shifts in attitudes, we are moving towards the acceptance of sexual desires and moving away from the idea that sex is primarily reserved for reproduction purposes. Slowly but surely, there has been a green signal to the conversations around masturbation too. So, how do you derive more joy from masturbation and mutual pleasure from sex?
When you find out that you are pregnant (and you don’t want to be!), it is understandable if you get into a panic mode as the pregnancy is not something you planned for or even wanted in the first place! Even though you cannot change this fact, there’s always something that you can do!
If you’ve ever read a sex advice column you may remember those annoying questions about how to know if one’s wife is a virgin or not. We all know some curious uncles and aunties whose radar gets activated the moment they see an unmarried woman hanging out with a guy frequently. This just shows how obsessed we are as a culture about the girl’s premarital sex or pre-marriage virginity. The whole society, be it men and sadly, even the women themselves judge and question an unmarried girl about her virginity status when she is seen with a guy.
Remember those fights between Rahul and Anjali about who’s better? Patriarchy is just a grander version of this fight with a predetermined result: The Boys are harder, faster, better, stronger!
Patriarchy is like the software to our society’s hardware. It can’t be easily seen, even though it runs our lives in a major way. We’ve all met patriarchy in some form or the other. Let’s figure out some ways to be ready to face it better in the future…
We’ve all been there! We’ve all had to talk about some really uncomfortable things with our family members at some or the other point. From our relationships to our sex life, very often we skip the conversation altogether to avoid the discomfort.
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